I have been thinking about how lucky I am to be writing this post on my internet connected device. I am lucky to be able to connect whenever I wish and visit any website I like. Lately though I have been reminded of the past. I’ve been seeing lots of trolling, negative attention seeking and plain rude fucks all over the web – especially on Facebook.
The reason this reminds me of the past is because I used to be one of those deadshits. Yes I say deadshits because that is the truth. If I didn’t agree with someone I would say so – but not constructively. If I was trolled on the web I would troll back even harder. One common thing that all trolls share – they are projecting their own bullshit out into the world at large. Like a child throwing a tantrum, they puff their chests and bang on the keyboard until they feel like they are getting their own way.
Of course that was a version of me from a long time ago – over a decade in fact. Nowadays I still voice my opinion if that fits within the context of the conversation, but I do so without pulling others down and I certainly don’t let myself get worked up by the trolling answers. Often I see posts online that have nothing to do with me and are not relevant to my life – so I don’t ‘have my say’ because quite simply it’s none of my business.
We all have opinions but anyone who thinks their opinion is the only right one is seriously deluded. Nobody cares if you are right. Nobody cares if you think you are more knowledgeable. And nobody wants to be pulled down by your comments.
The best bit of advice for anyone on the web (and offline) today is this:
Before you speak ask yourself if what you are going to say is true, is kind, is necessary, is helpful. If the answer is no, maybe what you are about to say should be left unsaid.
The above quote is kind of like the polite version of ‘mind your bloody business’. today you can either make someone feel good about themselves or leave them feeling like they have just experienced the presence of a deadshit.